Reviewed by John Perrodin
Songs in the Key of Solomon
John & Anita Renfroe
"This is a book filled with both humor and heart. And there’s a special emphasis on making devotional time a delight – not something to dread."
What would happen if you swirled the ticklish subject of sex into the pages of a practical devotional for couples? You’d end up with John and Anita Renfroe’s Songs in the Key of Solomon. This is a book about seeing past the surface stuff and delving deeper. It’s about finding true intimacy, which the authors define as knowing your mate and revealing yourself in the process. Songs forces spouses to open up. One exercise asks couples to admit any ongoing attraction a partner might have for someone else. Such from-the-gut honesty keeps communication channels clear and allows husbands and wives to talk out temptations before they become obsessions.
Although children are referred to as blessings, the authors recognize that couples can lose their identity as friends and lovers amidst the responsibilities of raising a family. That’s why spouses must make time to grow closer emotionally, spiritually, and physically. The Renfroes advocate everything from cuddling, to bathing, to celebrating communion together. Closeness is the key.
Try a just-the-two-of-you communion service. The authors suggest finding “a quiet place in your home where you’ll be from distractions. Unplug the phone. Light a candle. Draw close to each other. Open your Bible to 1 Corinthians 11:23-26. We ask that the husband take this opportunity to be ‘a priest of his home’ and lead in the observance.” Songs in the Key of Solomon: In the Word…and In the Mood then sets out the worshipful steps that follow.
This is a book filled with both humor and heart. And there’s a special emphasis on making devotional time a delight – not something to dread. Clearly there’s no “right way” to do devotions. And if you miss a day once in a while, don’t sweat it. Just steal a few moments to explore your spiritual needs and see each other in a more personal, powerful way. The short studies (most no longer than this review) are easy to get through and yet still provide food for thought. Plus couples will find themselves sharing secrets as they draw closer together.
Couples at every stage of their marital journey will find these sixty substantial, but entertaining, discourses uplifting. And a whole lot of fun. Grapes in the bathtub, anyone? Everyone from young Just Marrieds to Boomers approaching anniversary milestones will find these spiritual disciplines as encouraging as they are easy to practice.
John Perrodin is the Senior Editor for the Christian Writers Guild. He co-authored the Renegade Spirit Trilogy with Jerry B. Jenkins. The latest release in that series is Seclusion Point (Thomas Nelson). His book, Simple Little Words: What You Say Can Change a Life, written with Michelle Cox, releases in April 2008 from David C. Cook. Please visit www.simplelittlewords.com to find out more about the book, and visit John's website www.johnperrodin.com to find out more about his writing.