Reviewed by Karri Compton
The Man Whisperer by Rick Johnson
"There are lots of good, if difficult to put into practice, concepts here that are sure to make a difference in marriages."
Rick Johnson is the founder of Better Dads, a fathering skills program designed to inspire and equip men to be more engaged in the lives of their children. You can visit that website here: http://www.betterdads.net. He has written two other books that help moms and dads in their quest to develop godly character in their sons.
Most women don’t understand the subtle power they wield over men. The differences between men and women are myriad, and let’s face it, hard to deal with. Sometimes we just want the opposite sex to act more like us. But that’s the wrong attitude.
In The Man Whisperer, Johnson likens a woman to a horse whisperer. She learns the language of the horse, earns its trust, is tender yet firm, but she doesn’t try to make the horse a human. Instead of trying to get a man to be more like a woman, the author seeks to answer this question: “How can I get a PhD in my man, so that I know how to encourage him to be his personal best self?” Sounds like a lifetime endeavor to me.
With chapters that expound on qualities of good men, traits that hold men back, and how to use influence effectively, women will find much to ponder in this book. In a chapter called “Power Tools for Women,” Johnson lists things like appreciation, forgiveness, respect, and praise as tools that work. And under the heading of those things that don’t work we find (as no surprise): nagging, manipulation, belligerence, and begging.
Many of the concepts found in this book have been dealt with before by people like Stu Weber and Kevin Leman, but instead of just explaining how men are wired, Johnson helps women use their influence positively in their man’s life.
I would recommend this for engaged women, newlyweds, or any woman who wonders how to help make her man be the best he can be. There are lots of good, if difficult to put into practice, concepts here that are sure to make a difference in marriages.
Compton, wife and mother of three teens, two cats, and a beagle, devours Christian
fiction whenever possible. Her favorite genre is suspense/thriller, especially
Ted Dekker and Steven James novels. Since promoting biblical worldview fiction
is dear to her heart, she reviews on her blog, Fiction
Fanatics Only! and is
a staff reviewer for such sites as The Christian Suspense Zone and Fiction Addict.
Her stab at writing a novel confirmed what a tough job it is, and so the work
is shelved for now, allowing the pros to do what they do best. When she isn't
reading and reviewing, Karri stays busy at church and performing in various community